Well, I might have missed it yesterday, but I did not miss it! That’s right, yesterday in 12 countries, it was World Femininity Day. 🙄
From the WFD website:
To acknowledge and celebrate femininity by women, for women, for humanity. We believe it is vitally important as women to be encouraged to feel powerful through our femininity as opposed to matching or competing with masculine ways of being to achieve power in our lives whether that be socially, in relationships, family or career.
We believe that the more women feel connected to and inspired by their femininity in all cultures across the world the harder it will be to exploit women. We are standing for a world where it is safe to be feminine.
We are saying YES to women worldwide feeling fabulous, being fully self expressed and loving their lives.
We are saying NO to the exploitation of women and children; this year’s event is about raising awareness of WFD. The 2012 event will be raising money for charities committed to ending exploitation of women and children across the world.
“I will roll over and accept that rather than telling men off for abusing women, we would be far better off if we deferred to them and made the effort to look pretty, demure and soft. Perhaps then they will be nicer to us.”
Such is the view of WFD, because that has so worked in the past as a strategy, and I guess the other assumption is that there was no rape or abuse of females before the 1950s, when women were demure and pretty, and knew their place, unlike the 1960s/70s when uppity women became ballbusting feminists and rejected “femininity” and therefore we now have all these problems like rape and violence directed at females primarily.
Except that rape and abuse of females did indeed pre-date the lovely feminine 1950s, so that bright-spark strategy has already been tried and failed. *The reigning Miss Branksome is none other than Ms Julie Bindel, who was pointing out the exact same thing. That shit don’t work. In fact, in the 1950s marital rape was legal, so if WFD want a return to the times of mandatory femininity, then I guess they want to repeal the marital rape laws as well?
The next bit of logic-fail going on with WFD is the concept of femininity – which cannot exist without its counterpart, masculinity. So if you want your “women to be women”, then you want your “men to be men”. And masculinity entails the domination and exploitation of those who are “feminine” (the role assigned to females). Whoops! So in embracing femininity, they are polarising gender roles to encourage the subordination of, and violence against, females – the stuff they say they want to end. A little like throwing kerosine on a fire in order to put it out. It ain’t gunna work. It will make it much worse.
Of course, this poses a bit of a dilemna for the libfems, those almost-feminists that only seem to get half the picture (or just see the bits they want to see). The libfems, with the UK stronghold known as The F-Word (known in these parts as The Tranz-Word), have, in a surprising twist, blogged against WFD and femininity imposed on females-only – yet still will accept males performing femininity and declaring them “women” too, just like FABs.
Now F-Word, either ‘femininity is a performance’ that females are forced to participate in and therefore unnatural, or it is a ‘natural expression of females’ and therefore males that express femininity are “really women” and should be accepted as ‘one of us’ (FABs). You cannot have it both ways. Because a transwoman (a male) not performing femininity is just … an adult human male, a MAN (the word for adult human male).
If you cannot get your head around that, visual example:
Without the ‘femininity factor’ Dustin is just a dude. A man. An adult human male. Make sure you check out my other Tootsies of the Week for more examples of males performing femininity, and declaring themselves to be women.
I don’t approve of males performining femininity, just as I don’t approve of females performing femininity. It gets us nowhere except polarisation based on biological sex – highlighting the differences. And it’s a tool of the patriarchy, as well as a big capitalist waste of money spending dosh on all this crap – when females still only get 80 cents on the dollar compared to the male wage, and are overly represented in redundancies/budget cuts during this recession, as well as the age-old faux-redundancy when pregnant.
The bottom line, it costs money to perform this femininity crap. Yeah, maybe the M2Ts can afford all this shit because of their larger incomes and more protected careers – but by them participating in all this does not help FABs either, who are forced to continue to perform femininity because of it.
And libfems, if “anyone” can be “a woman” how on earth are you going to determine the discrimination against females as a concept? We are discriminated against from cradle-to-grave, because we are born female. If “anyone” can be included in that category, there goes the uniqueness of being female and the discrimination we face because of it.
Femininity: Just say NO.
Feminism: Just say YES.