Meet Dave the Squirrel. He is my “internal identity”.
What, you don’t believe that my internal identity is Dave the Squirrel? How dare you question my sacred, internal identity! That is tantamount to saying I don’t exist! You must acknowledge my sacred internal identity, and ‘respect’ it by using the correct squirrelific pronouns.
Well, hands up who thought my *demands* to having my “internal identity” validated by everyone else was just a bit silly?
Easy to see when the “internal identity” is Dave the Squirrel. It is also easy to see that the requirement for external validation of Dave the Squirrel, a supposedly internal identity, is ridiculous, unreasonable, and a terribly fragile sense of “internal identity” if it requires constant external validation.
In fact, any so-called internal identity that requires any form of external validation, is not an internal identity at all.
I actually don’t care if you have an internal identity or not, it does not matter to me, it is not even any of my business – except – when it affects other people.
And here is when the ‘internal identity’ crosses that line, harming or affecting others, specifically the concept of gender (or “jendah”) as an internal identity:
- In the expression of your internal identity of jendah, you are putting others at risk, specifically you do not even care about that risk to others. Example: You do not care who else can access women’s bathrooms, anyone who “identifies as women” is ok with you.
- In the expression of your internal identity of jendah, you encourage others to follow the same path, of questionable origin of the belief system (gender/sex roles as a social construct), and of questionable ethical medical treatments. Examples are the APA and Trans Youth Family Allies. It is your internal identity, so getting others to copy you as a form of additional validation is not ok.
- In the expression of your internal identity of jendah, medical staff enable potentially harmful treatments and surgeries, affects that can have lifelong implications. There are a growing number of ‘trans regretters‘ who felt pushed into these surgeries and treatments. That is coercion from the medical profession, and it is unethical. And no, I don’t have to trust the APA or other medical bodies as unbiased bodies that know everything – several hundred years ago the top scholars of the day thought (and taught) that the world was flat. Bias and projection (anthropomorphism and sexism) pervade many scientific studies, rendering these studies questionable.
Basically, your ‘internal’ identity of jendah can and does affect or harm others. From that point of view, it is not solely or primarily internal at all.
The second reason your ‘internal’ identity is not internal but external, is that it requires external expression. Whether that takes the form of cross-dressing, hormonal treatment, full or partial SRS, these are all forms of external expression (and are therefore, not internal). If something is internal, it is not external.
If you thought you were a squirrel called Dave or Pope inside, and did not bother with the dressing up like a pope, or having surgery to look like a pope, or insisting that other people refer to you in papal terms, or affect the lives of any other popes or non-popes, then it would be an ‘internal identity’. Ditto on the Dave the squirrel thing. Once it crosses that line outside of yourself, it is no longer internal.
Other people not validating your internal identity is not a denial of your existence. You exist, ok? You have the right to think and believe whatever you want, as long as it does not harm other people.
~ luv and kisses, Dave the Squirrel