Projection. Patriarchy is founded on it. I am convinced that if you listen to menz talk, all the shit that they say about FABs, is really the truth about them.
This post was inspired by a comment Linda Radfem made; “we have the trope about women using pregnancy to entrap men. It’s the fucking other way around.”
Absolutely. If teh poor menz were so damn worried about ‘some evil woman out to trap them’ then the solution is easy, slap a fucking rubber on his dick. Works like 98% of the time. But they won’t, getting a dude to wear a condom is like extracting teeth, or taking a cat to the vet.
It is far more likely that it is the woman who is ‘trapped by pregnancy’, or at the very least is inconvenienced and worried/stress about the possibility of it. Nigel can easily skip off into the sunset if he does not want to stick around (so much for being trapped). Or, if Nigel decides he wants to make his gf more committed to him, well, accidents do happen right? Who is ‘trapped’ in that scenario?
Impregnation is an important tool of MABs to either entrap or ‘punish’ FABs. Entrapment is an MAB projection, they could easily not get ‘trapped’ if they didn’t want to.
Sluts and whores. Given that menz are the ones wanting to stick their dick into everything and anything, and there is the old double standard that a dude is allowed to go around shagging, but women should remain chaste, who are the real sluts and whores? Given that FABs can easily be labelled a slut if they sleep with even two or three dudes, and a dude can shag a thousand women and still not get called a slut. Don’t even get me started on cruisin’ gay dudes. Projection, again.
Women smell? Jeez, it is far more likely that a dude will stink one way or another. Projection.
Heterosexuality and het coupledom is natural? Not a chance, given the 24/7 propaganda campaign (aimed at females) to make this ‘natural’ situation occur. Throw in a bit of preganancy entrapment above, and the situation looks anything but natural. The only ones who really want the het coupledom are the males, who want a 24/7 maid and freebie whore, and not because they are particularly heterosexual either. It is the dudes that really get the most benefit out of het coupledom. Hell, most of them already have another girlfriend on the side before a break-up, and males generally get remarried much faster than women. Projection.
Rapists, who insist that ‘the victim did not communicate her “no” clearly enough’, when nine times out of ten, the victim would have communicated both verbally and bodily that ‘sex’ was unwanted (hence rape). Most of the other common rape myths are all projection as well. Including the ‘many women secretly want to be raped’ – no, but most dudes would like to rape if they thought they could get away with it. In fact, probably all of the rape myths are a big exercise in male projection. Why else would the victim be ‘on trial’ far more than the accused?
PIV as an expression of ‘love’. Considering the woman has to take all or most of the risk in regular PIV, and males apparently cannot tell the difference between rape and PIV, PIV is more an expression of hate, domination and control. The fact that PIV is more or less mandatory, and withdrawing it is ‘withdrawing the love’ (“you don’t love me any more!!”) proves that it is less about love than the propaganda indicates. PIV as a good thing, and PIV as love, both are reversals. OK, so I broke convention there, but reversals are projections closely related cousins, if not siblings. I even had to change the post title!
What about porn? Porn is supposed to enable dudes to have a healthy outlet otherwise they would go around raping!!! Yet research shows that porn actually increases the chance of a dude to go out raping. Porn is supposed to be encouraging ‘healthy adult sexual relationships’, yet is full of clichés and stereotypes. Reversals.
Women gaining ’empowerment’ through sexiness? Hardly. There is a better chance of the women doing this being called sluts and ‘asking for it [rape]’ than any chance of getting equal pay. How about the myth that you have to get all sexxay to attract a manz? Nope, dudes will shag anything and are easy to get. See above as to who the real sluts are. Reversal, and projection.
Menz are smarter than women? Hardly. For centuries females were kept out of education, and told that their delicate little female brain could not handle the knowledge. In the latter 20th century, when the educational playing field was more level, girls outperformed boys – and that was in a climate still with a lot of sexist discrimination going on. And apparently males have trouble understanding such a little word like “no”, yet pre-schoolers can grasp its meaning. Dumb-as-fuck does not even begin to cover it. Reversals, projection.
In just about every area of sexism and discrimination against females, reversals and projection are used. You can learn a lot of the truth about males, by listening to what they say, and reversing it.
How can you tell when a man is lying? His lips are moving.