An aside comment that Aileen made, and her mention of Spokeo, got me thinking.
As women (primarily if you are a het dating woman) some dude may take it upon himself and develop a stalking obsession with you. It happens quite a lot, most of the time it can be just an inconvenience, but sometimes it can lead to grave harm like rape or even death. Even just going out with a dude once or twice can be enough to start the whole stalker thing.
But, that is not what this post is about. As radfems, we have a lot of enemies. Most of us are savvy to realise the constant threats from online male supremacist dudes and have blogging identities. What I wanted to warn you about, was to keep all information tied to your real personal life, completely separate, including birthdates. Sites like FaceButt ask you for you full birthday, not just the year (which is really the only thing necessary once you are over 16 or 18 or whatever the age limits are). So get yourself a fake birthdate too. Register your radfem profile with a pseudonym. Avoid putting your telephone/mobile numbers in profiles (fudge it if you have to supply one).
If you have multiple radfem IDs, then try to make them as disconnected as possible. Use of gmail (or similar) email addys is quite good. Sometimes you can register your gmail with a mobile number, do that, then go back in and change it later. Let’s just say that I have ‘multiple personalities’, as far as my online presence goes, most are disused.
Many of you already know that a few years ago, a radfem blogger was not only hounded off the internet, but serious attempts were made to track her down in real life, complete with death/rape threats of course. All for saying something in a private radfem forum, that had a sex pozzie spy who copied and leaked the information to the outside. Lots of attempts (including successful ones) by pozzies infiltrating radfem and anti-porn groups have happened, and you should always assume that is the case in more general forums. Thus far I don’t know of any tranz infiltrations, but being MAABs, it is bound to happen.
And don’t forget falling out between radfems either. I have recently seen a radfem, for whatever gawddamn reason, go to a pozzie site, and basically give ABC instructions of how to find out the radfem blogger’s personal information (through association to things like FaceButt), all whilst denying that she would ever reveal the information. Frankly, I consider supplying a fluorescent breadcrumb trail to the information as good as doing it.
What pissed me off today, was that I went to Spokeo and did a search of my Libber email addy. Not a lot came up – although who knows how much more comes up with membership or paid services. What came up that really pissed me off was a list of my recent blog posts, from this blog, a blog that is hidden from search engines. I might have a moan to WP about it. Perhaps it may be connected to that stupid Gravatar profile site, it pisses me off that we have to put our profile pic for WP onto another site – I just don’t want it. It should be optional, for those who do want connected identities throughout the internutz.
As an aside, all that stupid connection between the various logins for Blogger/Blogspot (like using Google IDs) does not always work that well, it’s a flippin’ nuisance. If you have a Blogger blog, this is one reason I don’t comment much on them (do defect to WP, Blogger is shit). And, whilst I am at it, never use a black or patterned background, no matter what blogging platform you use.
So go to sites like Spokeo, and see how much info you can dig up on yourself, then go back and hide your personal tracks if you want to remain anonymous.
If you know other sites like that one, let us know about them. I am sure that all the creepy stalker dudes already know tonnes of them.
If you want to discuss certain events naming specific incidents concerning radfems, then request a private thread and I will make one. Put your request for the pw here, if such a thread is created. There is no need to supply your email address, I just pick that up off your comments, so that is always the one I use.