Big Meanies Club

I might have accidentally founded the Big Meanies Club! Well, that is what they will call us – and worse – for our refusal to indulge males in any way, up to and including delusions of ‘gender’.


Males are energy vampires. They steal from females; female time, energy, support, compassion, understanding, then they turn around and use those same qualities, the ones they have already benefited from, and use them as a weapon against us. They suck the life out of us, for all or most of our lives, and any woman who dares to say “fuck off” is a Big Meanie. So, zmog, there just has to be a club for this sort of errant behaviour!

Het men will steal our time in housework, childcare, ‘second’ income, emotional support (one way deal usually), ego boosts and the list goes on. When he decides he is finished with her, she will be left with little or nothing to show for this ‘partnership’, and most likely she will be left struggling to get by with no/disrupted career, children to support, no fair deal on the asset distribution. When women finally wake up to the raw deal and say “no more” they are Big Meanies for withholding this vital support to men – actually they get called a lot worse usually, all to try and guilt you back into the manz-support fold.

M2Ts aren’t any better. We have to give them unconditional support; access to our spaces, our activist time supporting their agenda, complete and utter acceptance of them as women – just because they say they are. Do they reciprocate at all? Nope. Not on your life. Like every other activist movement that involves males, once they get what they want, we females are on our own to ‘get the rest’. Every fucking time.

Ah, but M2Ts go one better than that. Even during the cozy alliance that they insist upon, they call us names like cis-woman and a hell of a lot worse, like transphobic, haters, bitches (and I will bet they also call us cis-whores in their trans-only spaces, it’s a given). They have no problem telling us that they “hate us” when things don’t go their way. Awww, diddums. Are they five? Basically most of the names are the same shit that other males throw at us, but, in a dress and some nice lippy! Typical transmisogyny.

As a separatist I refuse to give my time or energy to any male in any capacity (save earning a crust to eat, but I am working on that). That is inclusive of supporting males in their delusions to be whatever the fuck they want to be this week. I am not propping that up in any way, shape or form.

Nor did I, or any of my radfem colleagues, start the name-calling. Initially, we tried to be supportive, and what we got back were labels that we did not approve of, like cis-gender, cis-woman, and apparently cis-supremacist (I fucking kid you not). Time and time again we asked politely and nicely, “please stop, that is not a name we chose for ourselves, it is offensive on so many levels”. Guess what? They didn’t stop! So my butch work-gloves came off – “fuck you, you cannot respect my wishes for what I want to be called, I will not indulge your little fantasy of ‘correct pronouns'”.

Yes that is right, no more catering to the pronoun fantasy world! zmog, I am such a Big Meanie. In the queenie world of M2T, that is “worse than rape!!!”. Yeah. Right. Whatev’s.

It really takes very little disobedience to males to end up in The Big Meanie Club. Come join me!

As usual, see the standard disclaimer. Read it and weep.
And grow-the-fuck-up-already whilst you are at it.

11 thoughts on “Big Meanies Club

  1. ball buster

    Read it and weep.

    Love it, love it love it. I love this ENTIRE post!

    Yes, men treat our existence like a joke we womben need to STOP laughing with them. Everything is either a sitcom with them or it’s a slumber party, and goddamn it we’ve got reality to deal with.

    <3s for all the Big Meanies ™. May we overthrow the Patriarchy.

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  2. ball buster

    I second that, Jilla. What the hell is that supposed to mean? I don’t see any anyone running around saying they’re better than trans, in any way shape or form.

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  3. Aileen Wuornos

    Things trans-supporters have said to me:

    you are a horrible waste of human matter and a disgrace to your gender

    WHY ARE YOU SUCH A STUPID FUCKING BITCH OH MY FUCKING GOD HOLY SHIT IS IT LIKE
    PAINFUL TO BE THAT IGNORANT? LIKE SERIOUSLY DO YOU EVER HAVE TO GO TO THE FUCKING HOSPITAL IT GETS SO PAINFUL SOMETIMES
    WOW YOU ARE DUMB YOU ARE

    how dare you call yourself a feminist

    etc etc ad nauseium

    And yet I am the “cis-supremacist”? I still can’t believe the amount of mental gymnastics these men and their supporters do.

    I love the idea of the ‘big meanies club’!

    I second that, Jilla. What the hell is that supposed to mean? I don’t see any anyone running around saying they’re better than trans, in any way shape or form.

    Me neither, but I do see lots of trans and their allies saying they’re better than us *see above*

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  4. FAB Libber

    you are a horrible waste of human matter and a disgrace to your gender

    WHY ARE YOU SUCH A STUPID FUCKING BITCH OH MY FUCKING GOD HOLY SHIT IS IT LIKE
    PAINFUL TO BE THAT IGNORANT? LIKE SERIOUSLY DO YOU EVER HAVE TO GO TO THE FUCKING HOSPITAL IT GETS SO PAINFUL SOMETIMES
    WOW YOU ARE DUMB YOU ARE

    how dare you call yourself a feminist

    This sounds exactly like any MRA troll going off on one (except for the last line, they don’t bother about feminism, but usually put something in about being anti-manz). And like all males, it does not take much to set them off with a tirade just because you won’t pander to their whims.

    Nor do they know much about women’s pain anyway, many women having painful periods for years on end, or going to the gynaecologist having a cold metal instrument rammed up your vaginal canal. Fairly standard fare for most FABs.

    None of this is what we chose, it was not optional treatment like cosmetic surgery, and yes, SRS basically is cosmetic surgery, and optional. Tranz make out that it is “essential”.

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  5. ball buster

    Holy shit, Aileen!!! I am speechless! Fab nailed it – they only give a fuck about their own elective cosmetic surgeries that hack off HEALTHY LIVING TISSUE. Holy hell. There’s just no words for it.

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