Yes the flag has been planted. Women are a colonised people. The parallel is more than just metaphoric, it is an actuality, a reality. Patriarchy colonises our homes, our bodies, our minds. Some of the colonised peoples always remain resistant to the colonisers, and dream of that time pre-colonisation. Others succumb to the invaders, first yielding, and later adapting to and adopting the ways and customs of the colonisers.
Very few of us have ‘a room of our own’, a place to go without the presence of the invaders. It is perhaps why some of us pro-FAABers remain territorial over seemingly insignificant things like restrooms, because there are few places we can go without the colonisers being allowed in. Maybe some M2Ts are sympathisers and defectors who will not do us harm, but holding the door open for the other colonisers that look just like you, is worrying, when our own coloniser-free spaces are few and far between.
They colonise our bodies – mandatory PIV in het relationships – such a ridiculous notion unless the parties involved want to procreate. The ‘fun’ or ‘duty’ of PIV, it does not matter whether it is the right or the left, both sides insist on mandatory PIV, it is a reminder that our bodies are not our own. They are the property and for the purposes of our colonisers. This is probably why there is little difference between rape and PIV, culturally-sanctioned mandatory PIV is rape. Like any other sexually assaulted victim, we are groomed into accepting this reality as ‘normal’. If it were ‘natural’ to form het pair-bonding with mandatory PIV, then there would be no need for the grooming. Nor would we be subject to the 24/7 het sexuality crap thrust upon us via malestream media (and porn).
The colonisation of our bodies is a key component to our oppression. Either we are trauma-bonded to our live-in Nigel oppressor, just in case we are impregnated, or our vulnerability as the pregnable is used as a weapon to remind us of our oppressed status, and that of the colonised peoples. Rapists frequently do not use condoms in this day of DNA evidence, they claim “a reasonable belief in consent” to the jury, and more often than not, get away with it. Woman, as the colonised, is assumed to be in a 24/7 state of perpetual consent! We live in a colonised-State of mandatory PIV, one way or the other, from the right or the left, and it is assumed that the grooming worked, and we wanted it. We, the colonised, are on trial, we have to prove to the jury that we did not.
Over time, many colonised people adopt the thinking and world view of their oppressors. This is the sign that the colonisation has worked and is here to stay. It comes from a place of no way out of the colonised situation, so you had better make the best of it. Some go even further, and parrot the will of the oppressor (sex pozzies for example), or policing their colonised peers. In doing this, they sell out their kin, and reap the rewards of their ‘exemplary’ behaviour from the oppressors. It is no secret that the oppressor will severely punish dissenters, make an example of them, in order to gain the compliance of the majority of the colonised peoples. As I always say, if radfems are so off the mark with their analysis, and merely a bunch of nutters, there would not be such a campaign mounted against us, including the death/rape threats we often get. Our messages are dangerous for the colonisers, the messages may lead to an uprising of the colonised against their oppressors.
And home. What a ‘neat’ set-up, to have one of the colonisers policing the coloniser party-line on a 24/7 basis? To encourage the colonised people to go along with this, he puts economic sanctions in the way, along with a healthy dose of ‘love’ propaganda. He continues to break the will of the colonised class by insisting on mandatory PIV as his “need” and his “right”, using emotional blackmail against her that ‘she needs to show her love for him’ in this manner. For the het coupledom, PIV is the No.1 given expression of ‘love’. No other colonisation model has the live-in coloniser in such close quarters. Not just in her home, but in her mind and her body. The invasion and occupation is so utter, so complete. So soul-destroying. They break our will, they break and violate our bodies, in order to maintain coloniser status. They have no desire to join or integrate with the colonised population.
A few of us, and there are always a few, remain resistant or break free of the coloniser’s hold. The second wave taught us to “get the men out of our beds and out of our heads”, and separatism, as far as we can practically instigate it, is the only way to break free. There is no deal to be made with our colonisers. Some masters may be nice to their dogs on a leash, but the dogs always remain on a leash, no matter how long it is, it is always there.
Every time a coloniser insists on PIV for ‘fun’ or ‘duty’, every time a coloniser refuses to wear a condom, he is planting his flag on our bodies.