Colonisation


Yes the flag has been planted. Women are a colonised people. The parallel is more than just metaphoric, it is an actuality, a reality. Patriarchy colonises our homes, our bodies, our minds. Some of the colonised peoples always remain resistant to the colonisers, and dream of that time pre-colonisation. Others succumb to the invaders, first yielding, and later adapting to and adopting the ways and customs of the colonisers.


Very few of us have ‘a room of our own’, a place to go without the presence of the invaders. It is perhaps why some of us pro-FAABers remain territorial over seemingly insignificant things like restrooms, because there are few places we can go without the colonisers being allowed in. Maybe some M2Ts are sympathisers and defectors who will not do us harm, but holding the door open for the other colonisers that look just like you, is worrying, when our own coloniser-free spaces are few and far between.

They colonise our bodies – mandatory PIV in het relationships – such a ridiculous notion unless the parties involved want to procreate. The ‘fun’ or ‘duty’ of PIV, it does not matter whether it is the right or the left, both sides insist on mandatory PIV, it is a reminder that our bodies are not our own. They are the property and for the purposes of our colonisers. This is probably why there is little difference between rape and PIV, culturally-sanctioned mandatory PIV is rape. Like any other sexually assaulted victim, we are groomed into accepting this reality as ‘normal’. If it were ‘natural’ to form het pair-bonding with mandatory PIV, then there would be no need for the grooming. Nor would we be subject to the 24/7 het sexuality crap thrust upon us via malestream media (and porn).

The colonisation of our bodies is a key component to our oppression. Either we are trauma-bonded to our live-in Nigel oppressor, just in case we are impregnated, or our vulnerability as the pregnable is used as a weapon to remind us of our oppressed status, and that of the colonised peoples. Rapists frequently do not use condoms in this day of DNA evidence, they claim “a reasonable belief in consent” to the jury, and more often than not, get away with it. Woman, as the colonised, is assumed to be in a 24/7 state of perpetual consent! We live in a colonised-State of mandatory PIV, one way or the other, from the right or the left, and it is assumed that the grooming worked, and we wanted it. We, the colonised, are on trial, we have to prove to the jury that we did not.

Over time, many colonised people adopt the thinking and world view of their oppressors. This is the sign that the colonisation has worked and is here to stay. It comes from a place of no way out of the colonised situation, so you had better make the best of it. Some go even further, and parrot the will of the oppressor (sex pozzies for example), or policing their colonised peers. In doing this, they sell out their kin, and reap the rewards of their ‘exemplary’ behaviour from the oppressors. It is no secret that the oppressor will severely punish dissenters, make an example of them, in order to gain the compliance of the majority of the colonised peoples. As I always say, if radfems are so off the mark with their analysis, and merely a bunch of nutters, there would not be such a campaign mounted against us, including the death/rape threats we often get. Our messages are dangerous for the colonisers, the messages may lead to an uprising of the colonised against their oppressors.

And home. What a ‘neat’ set-up, to have one of the colonisers policing the coloniser party-line on a 24/7 basis? To encourage the colonised people to go along with this, he puts economic sanctions in the way, along with a healthy dose of ‘love’ propaganda. He continues to break the will of the colonised class by insisting on mandatory PIV as his “need” and his “right”, using emotional blackmail against her that ‘she needs to show her love for him’ in this manner. For the het coupledom, PIV is the No.1 given expression of ‘love’. No other colonisation model has the live-in coloniser in such close quarters. Not just in her home, but in her mind and her body. The invasion and occupation is so utter, so complete. So soul-destroying. They break our will, they break and violate our bodies, in order to maintain coloniser status. They have no desire to join or integrate with the colonised population.

A few of us, and there are always a few, remain resistant or break free of the coloniser’s hold. The second wave taught us to “get the men out of our beds and out of our heads”, and separatism, as far as we can practically instigate it, is the only way to break free. There is no deal to be made with our colonisers. Some masters may be nice to their dogs on a leash, but the dogs always remain on a leash, no matter how long it is, it is always there.

Every time a coloniser insists on PIV for ‘fun’ or ‘duty’, every time a coloniser refuses to wear a condom, he is planting his flag on our bodies.

37 thoughts on “Colonisation

  1. FAB Libber

    Of course, the PIV without condom (and even when coloniser-Nigel knows he does not want baybees) it will be such an imposition for him to use a condom. Yes, Nigels have at their disposal, a fairly reliable method of avoiding “gold-digging women that get themselves pregnant to trap our dear Nigel”.
    Injecting his spunk into the colonised is also a way of marking his turf. Just as many animals spray their turf. Yep. That is why the Nigels find it such an imposition to use a condom. Turf-marking, conquer-marking, is incomplete without spraying his manjuice everywhere and on everything.

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  2. Jilla

    Yes, home. Where the rapes are formally sanctioned. Default.

    Thanks for all this work. Just going to continue reading. xxxooo

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  3. veganprimate

    Wow, that was a powerful post.

    As I was reading it, I had a visual come to my mind (which I hope does not end up being offensive to blacks). I was picturing slaves in the 1800’s in their living quarters. They could talk shit about their owner(s), maybe even plan a mutiny or something. At the very least, they were free to be themselves. But then picture the same scene of the slaves in their living quarters, but now picture their owner being there, too. When they’re done working in the fields and they retire to their living quarters for the night, their owner (or one of his appointed goons) goes with them. How do you think they would feel and behave in that situation?

    And a much, much more milder version would be having your boss stay in your home with you. You can’t cuss at work, you have to wear certain clothes, you have to do what they say for 8 hours day. But now when you go home, you’re still not free to be yourself, b/c your boss is there. I think most people would find that to be quite irritating and inconvenient.

    But b/c we’ve been brainwashed not only with compulsory heterosexuality, but with the idea of pair bonding with the requisite marriage/cohabitation which I think is worse, most women do not realize how un-free they actually are. Hubby goes away for a few days on a business trip, and they can’t even enjoy that little bit of freedom, b/c they’ve also been brainwashed to fear being alone. They just sit anxious on their couches watching TV until he comes home. So sad.

    I’ve been living alone for so long that I can’t even tolerate the little bit of time I visit married women friends in their homes. Their fucking husbands can’t leave them alone for 5 minutes. Always swanning in the room to inquire about something. It’s like they’re afraid if more than one woman gathers together for more than 30 seconds, they’ll be planning his castration with broken bottles and rusty razors.

    That ought to give women some hope. I think the collective unconscious of men harbors the realization that they took control in an unfair and duplicitous manner, that they are really incompetent at running the affairs of the world, and that they need us far more than we need them. They’re afraid that one day we’ll wake up and smell the fucking coffee. I think if we could stop throwing each other under a bus for more than five minutes, we could totally overtake the fuckers. If men thought we couldn’t do it, they wouldn’t be so damned afraid to leave women alone. Seriously. I think men are far more aware of what we are capable of than we ourselves are.

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  4. FAB Libber

    I think if we could stop throwing each other under a bus for more than five minutes, we could totally overtake the fuckers. […] Seriously. I think men are far more aware of what we are capable of than we ourselves are.
    Totally inspiring stuff from you too VP.

    yeah, I keep pointing out to my sister how her Nigel liked to hover around when I was on the phone to her, frequently trying to get my sister’s attention. He is not quite as bad now. But shit, when I visit their place, whenever he is home, we are always made ‘aware’ of it.

    And yep, Nigels are very nervous when any group of women gather alone, sans-Nigel. It makes them very worried.

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  5. northernsea

    Sometimes it is even worse than that. I used to belong to a group and the married women could not have a conversation without dragging their husbands’ name or opinions into it. It was as if they were constantly channeling them. It drove me up the wall until I left. If I questioned them, I got the ‘deer frozen in the headlights’ look or a personal attack. Even to think their own thoughts was threatening. I grieve for them. Then they usually get some chronic disease.
    rhondda

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  6. noanodyne

    Oh yeah, rhondda, exactly. A friend and I have a thing where we count to see how long it takes a colonized woman to mention the man in her life. It’s never more than a few minutes and it’s almost always done awkwardly because they’re desperate to get that relationship wedged into the conversation regardless of whether it has any meaning to the topic at hand. It’s depressing as hell.

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  7. Jilla

    “Then they usually get some chronic disease.”

    What!?

    Surely you are not saying …. . What are you saying rhondda.

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  8. northernsea

    Yes, i am saying that, Jilla. I am not saying cause and effect though. I am saying the conversation is then all about their disease and getting everyone to sympathize and mother them because their husbands just don’t understand. I felt used and left. Every one need empathy, but all the time?

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  9. Jilla

    Oh I see. Yes, that’s my experience too. I think you either write, or you talk about it. Not both. Read Doris Lessing. 😉

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  10. northernsea

    Well, to put it in the context of colonization, I was always tempted to suggest they leave their husbands just to see if the condition cleared up. I didn’t. A failure of nerve on my part and the knowledge I would have been attacked with red hot vitriol.
    rhondda

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  11. Jilla

    Blaming you for what rhondda?. I’m not blaming you for anything. No idea where you’ve decided I might be.

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  12. northernsea

    Well, Jilla if you follow the line of comment you might figure that out. After our discussion you suddenly say you are not feeling like laughing out loud. What am I to think? Has there been someone else saying anything? If there is something in real life you did not indicate that. What am I to think? Don’t be so fucking coy. If I am out of line then ban me.
    rhondda

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  13. FAB Libber

    Somehow I think you may be both going at cross purposes, I think the missing LOL remark may have been ‘the LOL at the end of the previous comment’ disappeared?

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  14. Jilla

    LOL.

    Actually it was at the beginning of my comment. Like that above.

    I thought your comment was funny. Then when the post came in, the LOL had disappeared.

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  15. FAB Libber

    Probably not. Avoid carrot-like brackets on this platform!
    It is usually ok if you put more than one, in the one direction, like:
    >>>looky!<<<

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  16. FAB Libber

    Jilla, if stuff like that happens again, just repeat the exact same comment with the correction or missing element, and I will delete the dodgy one, ok?
    You notice I sometimes help out with the italics, when you are quoting a passage (it makes it easier for others to read).

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  17. Jilla

    You do, did? I thought it magically happened when I used quote marks, or something.

    Ok. I’ll work at it, try to get out of the habit of keyboarding it old skool style.

    I enlarge type quite a lot and generally find that’s quite enough tedious for me.

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  18. FAB Libber

    I have stuck with this template, as the font is larger than most other templates, for both posts and comments (there are similar templates, but I do find the comments very small).
    If you are not used to using the html tags, then you can always pre-make your comments over at your own (disused) blog. Either as a new post (which gives the most buttons for formatting), or dummy comments to your hello post, when you go into ‘edit’ the comment on your own blog, you can add the basic bold or italic and a few other things. Then select the lot, and paste over to the blog you want to comment on.

    That all sounds complicated, but it isn’t. It could also be the way I have explained it (because I am about to go to bed)!

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  19. Jilla

    I also don’t have to do any of that. I’ll just write more clearly. Thanks for using the larger font format, but I still have to enlarge several more times to read. I use the keyboard “control plus plus plus”.

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  20. FAB Libber

    Your browser will have default font size settings that you can change (small/med/large). Look under View menu or similar (or search the browser’s Help for “font size” etc). You can still do the manual Ctrl+++ business even after changing the default setting.

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  21. Sargasso Sea

    And then they get a disease.

    A colleague of ours’ husband was terminally ill and she’d begun to think about life was going to be like without him after 50 years (or however long) and decided that she would finally have time to get to know herself. She didn’t know what she liked to eat, or watch on TV, or do in her spare time; it was work at work and work at home and she’d NEVER had a moment to herself.

    We were so happy for her and really encouraged her to go for it, to just have a great time. With in a couple of weeks of her husband dying she was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and passed away not 2 years later.

    Am I a colonizer-hater? Fuck yes.

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  22. FAB Libber

    I had a further thought too. If ‘sex’ (PIV) can be marketed as ‘fun’ and ‘duty’, then that shows that there is something very very wrong with PIV, as well as why such a need to market it in the first place?

    Something that is ‘fun’ does not really need to be marketed, peeps will find out on their own or word of mouth. The ‘duty’ marketing is a bit more sinister, getting people (ok, women people!) to do something “for the sake of … ” or supposedly “essential” (het relationships). As PIV is not an essential life function (no one will die by not doing it), why supposedly so ‘essential’ then? Besides copulating to get the required number of offspring, job done.

    The PIV marketing campaign is really only ‘sold’ to females, males will stick their dick into anything, including park benches, animals, corpses, fences (I am sure this list is endless).

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  23. joy

    Definitely the domination aspect is what keeps the men coming (ah! didn’t even mean for that to be a double entendre, but it is).

    They need to convince and reconvince women that PIV is necessary, in order to keep fresh crops of women for dominating. If and when the marketing doesn’t take, they have to step up their efforts to overt rape.

    See Jeffreys’ “Anti Climax” for more on the way PIV was and is ‘spun’, explicitly for the purpose of domination. For keeping women in their place. The wizard spoke! Even pulled aside the curtain! In the 1930s! And yet people keep forgetting. As if willfully.

    More man-marketing.

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  24. FAB Libber

    When I get some more dosh, I will be getting more Sheila Jeffreys. I do actually have Anticlimax, but have not read it for a while (shoddy memory for these things, really it’s bad).
    I am part of the: I *heart* Sheila club

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