This connection confounds me

We interupt our normal scheduled blogging of twanzphobia to divert to regular feminism.
It was a very wtf moment when I read this:

Domestic violence increasing after quake

Police say they are already starting to see an increase in domestic violence in Christchurch following Tuesday’s fatal 6.3-magnitude earthquake.

Family violence and suicide numbers rose following last September’s quake, in which no lives were lost, and anecdotally officers were already starting to see a similar trend of domestic reports emerging, said Superintendent Russell Gibson.

“The stress and trauma of Tuesday’s earthquake is understandably taking its toll, and the continual aftershocks are exacerbating the tiredness and emotional fatigue. However family violence is not OK under any circumstances and it is important that situations are not allowed to escalate.”

He urged the Canterbury community to “take care of one another” as police expect the confirmed death toll of 75 to rise.

“I urge you to take care of one another and pull together. If situations start to get heated at home, take a deep breath and a step back; maybe go for a walk or go and chat things through with a friend or family member.”

Seriously dudes, what the fuck is wrong with you? She did not cause the earthquake.

And what sort of shitty advice is this? If things get ‘heated’ … take a walk? Nope. If things get ‘heated’ start planning your leaving, plan, plan now … and pray that the next earthquake will swallow the abusive prick into the ground.

ETA (June 2011):
Jilla found a document outlining the increase of domestic violence, rape, child abuse, after disasters. Such a shame that the perps remain a mysterious unnamed force. Here’s the clue: MENZ. If they cannot properly name and identify the problem, how the hell do they think they are going to fix it?
http://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/publications/violence/violence_disasters.pdf

14 thoughts on “This connection confounds me

  1. jilla

    They are terrified and being male, can’t figure out how to say “I’m scared” and think how you handle fear is to beat your wife?

    They think, this is my opportunity to get rid of her. I’ll say she fell in the crack and disappeared down a hole. I’m bereft. Hold me.

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  2. Aileen Wuornos

    I think these men who think they have a right to take out anything on the womyn and girls in their lives should try and hold their breaths for as long as possible. And then keep going.

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  3. luckynkl

    Stress and trauma are causing it? So why aren’t women off-ing men by the thousands?

    Ever notice there’s 101 excuses why men commit violence? They even go so far as to claim the devil made them do it or a evil woman put a hex on them. More strangely, people believe them!

    Now let’s put the shoe on the other foot. Ever notice how there are no excuses allowed whatsoever when women commit violence? Even when it’s in self-defense (which is usually the case)? They’re just declared evil.

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  4. thebewilderness

    I’m guessing that it is because most abusers are not in the same place in the cycle of abuse at the same time except in circumstances like these where they have all be inconvenienced, upset, and angered, by the same thing at the same time. There are a lot of vulnerable people out there right now who were not nearly so isolated or vulnerable before. So the abuse not only increases but escalates under those circumstances.

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    1. FAB Libber

      Good point about the cycle of abuse.
      It just proves that wifey is the punching bag for anything, and nothing she does or does not do makes any difference.

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  5. thebewilderness

    In response to Lucky, abuse, like shit, rolls down the hierarchy. Not up.
    Not always, but for the most part, women who are abusive target children or other women.

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    1. FAB Libber

      The women I think Lucky was talking about were the women retaliating in self-defence or self-preservation. The very small percentage of women who abuse (other women or children) usually have mental illness or abuse to themselves in their pasts.

      It is what separates female abusers from male abusers. Male abusers rarely have the reasons of mental health or previous abuse; they abuse because they can, and society lets them get away with it most of the time.

      The sad irony is that women who abuse/kill are labelled evil, and no attempt is made to excuse their behaviour. Males who rape/kill/abuse, rarely have the justification, yet every excuse under the sun is afforded them to excuse their actions.

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